Gay hanky colors
Fifty Shades of Lgbtq+ – The Hanky Code
Fetishes fascinate ly, it’s not the particular fetish that I find curious, but more the journey of self-discovery that leads a person towards a particular example, there is a obsession known as Tamakeri (Japanese translation: ball kicking) Yep, it’s just what it sounds like; the erotic pleasure of being kicked in the … that’s a ‘hard pass’ for me, but I have questions.
How does a person with an erotic paraphilia (a condition characterized by abnormal sexual desires, typically involving extreme or dangerous activities) uncover these desires? What was their “A-ha” moment? When does a man perceive that he derives sexual stimulation and satisfaction from getting smashed in the balls? Was it a bad bounce off on the playground? An unfortunate ricochet on the tennis court? And once a man discovers that hammering his nut-sack turns him on, how does he find others who share this very specific inclination towards CBT (cock and ball torture)? Inquiring minds crave to know.
Fetishism today has become commonplace enough to be considered cocktail chatter. We’
When two men are negotiating a sexual encounter or even compatibility to hang out, the phrase “What are you into?” will inevitably come from one or both.. Quite often in “Grindr” chat, this is shortened to be simply “into?” — just appreciate ships used cyphers (flags) to communicate, we queer men have our have way to communicate sexual preferences and proclivities. It’s called the Hanky Code.
Originating in the early ’s in either New York or San Francisco (let’s not even try to settle that debate), the hanky code is a system of signaling sexual preferences, fetishes, and roles by choosing to wear a specifically colored bandana on a particular side of the body. With just a glance at your rear end, (the bandana being tucked in your back pocket) anyone who is in-the-know will know what you’re “into!”
So how do you realize which color to wear, and where to wear it? The first critical variable is the side of the body on which you choose to wear your colors, because this signals your preferred role:
- Left side of the body = Top/Dominant Role
- Right side of the body = Bottom/Submissive Role
As a
Flagging for some hanky panky &#; deciphering the gay handkerchief code
By Chris Williams, updated 4 months ago in Lifestyle / LGBT people and culture
Have you ever noticed a guy with a coloured bandana or handkerchief sticking out of his advocate pocket? Bless you for not knowing how wearing one became the symbol of a confidential sex language. Here’s how to decipher what it all means.
The hanky code has been a part of underground gay tradition for over 40 years, and if you don’t know what it’s all about, we’ll receive you up to speed in no time.
Perhaps more prevalent in the leather community, you might still find a few practitioners of this means of private communication. But what’s the hanky code?
What is the hanky code?
It’s pretty straightforward. Wearing a coloured handkerchief or a bandana in a particular location on your body can be a way to indicate to somebody else what kind of sex you enjoy. Colours or patterns portray a different sexual activity, while the positioning indicates your favor of role.
The Hanky Code | Emen8(#NSFW)
The bandana is often on
Hanky codes
Using hanky codes or 'flagging' was established in the early s as a way of letting other gay men recognize your sexual interests, practices and preferences; eg: a coloured bandana or hanky worn in a back jeans pocket. While the hanky’s colour and/or pattern determines the practice, its location determines how you like/ enjoy the practice:
- On the left: active top/ dom (doing it)
- On the right: passive/ bottom/ sub (having it done to you)
- Around the neck/ upper arm or wrist: if you prefer not to pre-determine a role or you are versatile (active and passive)
While the range is extensive, several colours are the most widely recognised and still used today:
Light blue: sucking
Shadowy blue: fucking
Yellow: watersports
Black: heavy S&M
Grey: bondage
Red: fisting
Orange: into everything
Some of the colours are still used as code words on web app profiles; eg: "…looking for guys into red" and colours are also used in speech, eg: “I’m into yellow” rather than “I’m into watersports.”
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