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I am gay now what

by Fred Penzel, PhD

This article was initially published in the Winter edition of the OCD Newsletter. 

OCD, as we comprehend, is largely about experiencing severe and unrelenting doubt. It can cause you to doubt even the most basic things about yourself – even your sexual orientation. A study published in the Journal of Sex Research start that among a group of college students, 84% reported the occurrence of sexual intrusive thoughts (Byers, et al. ). In instruction to have doubts about one’s sexual identity, a sufferer need not ever have had a homo- or heterosexual experience, or any type of sexual experience at all. I have observed this symptom in young children, adolescents, and adults as good. Interestingly Swedo, et al., , establish that approximately 4% of children with OCD experience obsessions concerned with forbidden aggressive or perverse sexual thoughts.

Although doubts about one’s retain sexual identity might seem pretty straightforward as a symptom, there are actually a number of variations. The most obvious form is where a sufferer experiences the mind that they mig

How To Come Out As Gay &#; 6 Phases From The Experts

Contents

1. Coming Out To Yourself 

2. Coming Out To Friends

3. Coming Out To Family

4. Coming Out Across Identities

5. Reconciling Sexuality and Spirituality

5. Letting People See You As Queer

6. Reclaiming Your Desires

7. Continuing to Live Openly

8. Assessing Safety and Support

9. Finding Support and Community

Coming out might just be the hardest, yet most rewarding thing you’ll ever do. It surely was for me, on both accounts.

As I reflect help on that 22 year-old who made the bold decision to tell his parents, I realize that I was doing something more profound than just uttering important words to my folks. I was shifting the trajectory of my life, playing the lead role in my own life’s tale. I was allowing my legitimacy to blossom. And much like a flower, my blossoming happened in phases. I hear these coming out phases echoing in queer people’s lives every day. Learn about sexuality counseling here!

1. Coming Out To Yourself 

Coming out to ourselves is a big step in hone

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Am I Gay or is it a Defense Mechanism?

    • Hi, I know that this is a weird one. In my relationship with my ex, I was raped on a regular basis and I really struggle with the plan of sleeping with a man again.

      Well 6 months after the breakup, I&#;ve started feeling attracted to women. I have always identified as straight but I&#;m really confused and starting to wonder if I am gay or bisexual.

      Has this happened to anyone else after a domestically abusive relationship, or is it just my mind protecting me from being hurt by a man again?

    • Yes I&#;ve experienced this too. I wasn&#;t attracted to my previous boyfriend at first, then became super attracted to him and then craved him after I left despite knowing he was a terrible person.

      Then I disoriented my sex drive completely for a few years, during which time I started to question my sexuality despite only ever having dated men. Recently I&#;ve felt attracted to men again, coinciding with stopping taking a hormonal contraceptive.

      I think a combination of PTSD, trauma processing, discovering radical feminism and hormones made me bewildered. I fin