My daughter is gay now what
Topics mentioned: sexuality, how to talk to your youth about mental health
I don’t think that our eldest son had planned on coming out when he did.
We were having an argument about putting the ‘Find my iPhone’ app on his phone so we could track him down in case of an emergency. Soon the row escalated into a heated debate about his human rights, and the next thing he blurted out:
"I’ve got something to tell you. I am gay."
As a parent, however prepared you might be for an announcement of this kind, you can never be totally sure how you are going to react.
Instinctively, I threw my arms around him, told him how arrogant I was of him and said that we didn’t care who he loved as we would always love him. I felt a huge swathe of emotions, but what really broke my heart was the knowledge that he’d known for a while and hadn’t been able to share his feelings with anyone. The idea that he had been going through his ‘journey’ alone was heart-breaking to hear.
He then told his Dad, who reacted exactly as I had hoped and, after more hugs and encouraging words, our son brought the conv
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If you&#;ve ever heard the words &#;I&#;m gay&#; from a son or daughter, the announcement probably came as the shock of a lifetime. You likely cycled through an entire catalog of extreme emotions: shock, disbelief, anger, guilt. Then came the questions for you and your spouse: Why did this happen? Where did we fail? And how do we as Christians and loving parents respond to our child&#;s proclaimed homosexuality?
Stephen Arterburn, best-selling author and respected Christian psychologist, says many parents of homosexual children withhold love and affection because they&#;re afraid to emerge approving of the gay lifestyle. The truth is that your child needs unconditional love and acceptance more than ever. Withholding adore will only produce a difficult situation worse. Remember that acceptance is not the same thing as approval. Acceptance means acknowledging what is true. It does not represent you must compromise your convictions about what constitutes right and wrong, nor does it represent you condone queer behavior and practices.
“You want to shove those words back in and put the lid on. But you can’t. Your child is gay. This goes against everything you’ve been taught. It was not what you had in mind, and you instantly wonder where you went wrong.”
When you become a parent, you know to predict the unexpected. But for many Christian parents, nothing can ready them to hear that their beloved child is gay. This is the child you own cradled, spoon fed mashed bananas, and dreamed a beautiful future for. How could this be? What will the church say? What will your friends say? What does the future hold? You can’t even get your head around this.
If you are a Christian parent, family member or friend to whom your loved one has come out as gay or lesbian, then this is for you.
I summon you to sit down, rest, maybe get a cup of tea, and soak in what I’m about to tell you. My hope is to mentor you as we walk for a bit through this maze of confusion, to help you find your way to wholeness. In many Christian circles, this is not good news, and you may begin to spiral into reflection and self-searching. We’ll ge
5 Powerful Things You Can Do If Your Toddler Tells You, "I'm Gay."
You may not have been expecting to hear the words "I'm gay" from your child. Not only did you never envision it, but your religious beliefs and values also do not align with same-sex relationships. So, what do you do now? How do you respond to your child telling you they're gay?
As a parent, you may contain had the inclination that your child may be gay. As a consequence, the news may simply confirm your suspicions, and the conversation may be easy. On the opposite, you may feel enraged or shocked. Likewise, you may struggle with the idea and have a natural tendency to lock down the conversation or put it off as merely a phase they're going through. In existence, regardless of how you feel, the way you respond in the first five minutes could place the tone for your child for years to come.
In this article, we'll discuss the critical moments after your child comes to you and says, "I'm gay." With the help of Dr. Devon Mills is a licensed therapist in Atlanta, GA, we'll highlight five po